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Hello This post is specifically for link swapping! Which can be found in the "Other links found" section of this blog! To make it easier to contact me I have created this set on itself so you can "comment" below this post about the link swapping! My only rule for this is that if I share your link you agree to share mine, I will check to see if I am added to your links page as well!

Motivational Monday!

Here are today's motivational quotes! Have a great day and wonderful week!

Steps to clarity

Steps to clarity, these steps come from many stages of life and in many forms, be it an unhappy relationship, employment, to any kind of substance abuse.

Sometimes in life we can feel trapped, helpless, uncertain of our future. And sometimes at these times we have moments of clarity. They aren't set in stone, they are just moments in life where, for the lucky ones who listen and pay attention to themselves, it just flicks on like a light switch.

It just happens, just out of the blue one day. Being so consumed with unhappiness or hopelessness can bring about such a moment. Sometimes it just pops into your head; "What am I doing? Why am I so unhappy?" Or even, "What happened to my life?" And a dawning of the thoughts just happen.

• The first step is realizing that there is a problem.
• The second step is acknowledging you're truly unhappy in your situation.
• The third step is not wanting things to be as they are.
• The forth step is realizing things have got to change.
• And knowing you need to change; in order for your happy, to actually take place.

And most important of these moments is to let go of the fear of change or the fear you'll mess up!
As always, believe in your ability, believe in yourself!

Sometimes for peace of mind...

Sometimes for our own peace of mind, we must let go of old negative things. Be it friends, family members or even running back to old loves, we sometimes need to do it!

I know sometimes goodbyes are very painful, but we need to know that sometimes the others involved just don't care enough to even notice you've even walked away from the relationship.

Recently I have been thinking about an old school friend I use to be very close to, well I considered us close but they have done so much in the past to hurt the trust, that I don't even think that our friendship was for real, I was stolen from, I've be refused when I asked if I could stay with them a few days when I wanted to leave the relationship I had been in for a long time, being very unhappy.

They had said no, yet, when given the same opportunity, I did not shut them out. I actually invited them to stay until they found their own place. And again I was stolen from when they did leave, and later found out they were talking bad about me to their friends, which they had talked about them to me badly as well. Not one thank you! Is there really that many people like that in this world?

I've had family members talk badly of me, after being there for them, treated as if I was ungrateful for the things they had done for me, but when I was there for them, not one thank you.

I've had others come and go, people abandon me when my father passed. Treated like crap two days after he passed when I called another friend.

Yet, they all treat me as if I am the bad guy...and all those times I forgave, still encouraged them, still spoke empowering and positive words to help their confidence.

I've been called so many names, of which I am not any of those names except the B word. But to me, being a B is what I must do, in order to show I wont take their S.

So in order to keep a positive peace in my mind, I do things for myself, in order to keep me going, even though I sometimes come across some real A-holes who like to talk behind my back and insult me. Invite me places only to not call, and this just makes me think they just did it in order to laugh.

So I keep to myself and still try my best to keep others feeling good about themselves, complimenting their work, offering to help others, when I can.

So now, here I am a bit sad, trying my best to pick my moods back up to where they should be. I'm sad because I'm saying goodbye to a friendship, that meant something to me, but they have just showed me all along it has meant nothing to them.

I have felt and feel used, taken advantage of, unloved, unappreciated...

I'm sorry this message isn't very positive right now, but somethings a person must get things off their chests in order to feel more at ease and give themselves a little bit of peace at mind moments of true clarity. Which sometimes you can't really talk to those people, because they just get silent and I have the knowledge of knowing them well enough to be blaming me for their a-hole moments. Because they can't handle the fact that I know. Some unable to handle the truth.

I guess this is enough reading for you all tonight.

I've had worse things happen to me in the past so losing a friendship that means nothing to the other end is quite okay.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who has experienced these things and I'd like to apologize for any wounds I might have opened for anyone.

Be well and always be positive, sometimes we need those negatives though...in order to see those positives hiding below the surface.

Ann

Something about books and how they can relate to people, in a sense!

This is a long read, and I hope you take the time to read it, I put a lot of thought and feeling here!

I have been laying in bed for a little while now, and I got to thinking!

"People are kind of like books!"
We are judged on our appearances, no matter what our contents might be, we have chapters in our lives, with each having a new beginning with each year gone by, some years are interconnected, and some are far different than that of the next.

What I am trying to get at is, we can see an enchanting book upon a shelf and want it so bad, just because it's cover catches our eyes and we feel the need to reach out and grab it!

But then again there are these books, with chapter names that can be quite appealing as well. BUT after we buy that book, it seems to have an awesome cover, wonderful thought out chapter names (Life achievements we'll say) and we get home, sit and start reading...Not so bad!

However after a few chapters those names are just names..

Okay, I'll just cut to the chase here...Some chapters can get down right nasty and grotesque!

Okay here is my example, but in PERSON form, instead of book explanation form!

Say there is a man....OR woman, and they have high achievements in life, good grades all through school, goes to college, gets out, finds a great job she loves with a passion...BUT half way through life and those wonderful passionately well put togetherness years of life, something happens and they have a downfall, a "spiral to rock bottom" chapter that pops in there...and than life gets really really crappy!

That's the awesome enchanting covered book with great chapter names I was talking about... Don't get me wrong, I know it doesn't always happen!

And then we have those "meh" books, they look okay, a little rough around the edges, and the contents are a bit interesting, I may want to read it!!

For this book, say it's a man...OR a woman! They suck at school are poor and kind of living life from rock bottom, most of their days, always hungry, always hoping they will get something of value to feel they have something to appreciate and treasure for a change. Trying very hard to never take anything for granted, and being always thankful for what they have, because they know that at anytime of day or given moment they know it can be gone in a flash. Maybe they quit school, because they didn't get good grades at all, settled for everything that was there if needed. Always grateful, but also a bit bittered by heartache from loved ones.

Something happens, life gets a little better, but worry, it lingers always in the back of their heads. For this person, they know how quick things can change and how fast things can be taken away or vanish and be gone. They pick themselves up, dust off the discouraging words in their head and push on a head and do what they never thought they'd ever do, and beat their own odds of thinking they might lose. And end up at the top, while still appreciating each day, each possession they own as a treasure, each person who hasn't walked away or given up on them along the hard journey it had been to get where they were.

That is the book I want! The book that shows the struggle, as I know it can be, life isn't easy for everyone, we all have chapters, we all have pages we wish we could tear out! But you know what? Not everyone is the same and we all have our own chapters, in which shouldn't be judged! Anything could happen while living each chapter.

And a star can rise and fall, but leaves can slowly drift to the ground, yet be gently swept up to a tree branch again. Life can have ups and downs, but some know how to live with it and others don't, because they have not experienced it before...Sometimes the one who was always at the bottom, finds it easier to put things back together again, and the one who is new to it, finds it life threatening, not knowing what to do...and those moments, they show you what life is all about and who really cares....AND WHO WE ARE! We learn so much about ourselves at those times, those hard times, are trying and learning curves in life! Yes we hate those moments, but later in life we learned, we LIVED, it showed us WHO WE ARE, not to everyone, but to us! Learning who you are to yourself, it's not easy, but it's worth getting to know yourself...It helps to live a bit happier knowing, you're your own friend, when you have yourself you can't be alone! ;)

I love reading!

I always read the information description that usually is on the inside cover or the back of the book before getting a book. Books that show an experienced knowledge throughout (I mean school and life knowledge) are usually the best books on the shelf! I left the parts about love out for a reason because sometimes love can be the cause of the downfall or the cause of the uprising.

I hope everyone has a great year this year and that it is filled with love, good health, happiness and peace!

Ann