Motivational Monday! March/8/2021

 

Hello everyone, how is you week going?

Have you motivated yourself daily? 

Have you found or created an affirmation/self motivating quote?

Do you have a goals check list for your future to help you stay focused?

My last Motivational Monday(last week March/1/2021) was explaining a little bit about visions boards, have you created one or put anything ideas in place to create one?

What do you feel you are slacking on, or lacking to motivate you? Try focusing on those things.

Set little reminders if you need those in place to help motivate you and give you a specific thing(s) to focus on.

If your list is super long(in your eyes) then pick one thing at a time, give yourself the time you feel you need to get all of them each. Over time you will start to develop a habit of doing the things if you set a reminder/schedule for them. Feel free to do the ones most important to you 1st! Even if it takes you a year or more to have some of them met and or completed, be gentle with yourself and accept that not all things happen over night and that that is okay! 

It's okay if you take longer than others, as long as you complete what you have chosen to focus on that positively will motivate you for your future! 

Love yourself! It's okay to be a little selfish at times, it will keep you in charge of yourself and what you need. Yes being there for others counts, but what would they(family/children/lover) have if not for you? You MUST make a YOU time! Even if it's only for an hour or 2 a DAY! It's important! You are important, and are worthy of giving yourself some you time daily!

Whatever form of self care you need, take the time each day to have that time! 

Have a great week!

Ann

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Motivational Monday and Have a great week!

Hello everyone, here we are and it's Monday again! I hope you had a great weekend that that this week is a good one too! I still have the flu, and now my voice is off a bit. But I am still here, but quite late today to send you some motivation...

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Have a great week, stay positive, come back here if you're feeling down and as always believe in yourself!

Ann

6 years is a long time...

6 years is a very long time to be a single mother,
I think I am ready for love, possibly even; a best friend and a lover,
I want something ever lasting, compassionate, encouraging and kind,
I don't want a simple on again, off again; lover who will only ,keep playing with my mind,
I want someone who does their best to be stable,
I want someone reliable, intelligent and strong,
Someone who has a confidence, with small insecurities hidden underneath,
Someone who will talk to me, because they can tell I am feeling sad,
Someone who will listen, at those times when I'm feeling bad,
Someone who can see my pain, but corressess it with their heart,
Not someone who picks at it as if it were a freshly dried up scab,
I have scars on the outside, but also those hidden from within,
Things I dare not tell anyone,
I want someone who will hear with their heart; my secrets, but not use them to harm me,
I don't care how successfully they are in wealth, that is not the plan, nor the goal,
Their success is their goal, not my goal in a love,
I don't want someone who brags about their riches,
I don't want someone who brags about some kind of fame,
I just want someone to be themselves, so I can learn for myself,
I want someone who shows me love, and doesn't have to say it everyday,
And most importantly, I want them to be patient, with me, my moods, but most of all my child as being a part of me!

Have a great night everyone, I know it's been a while, but I have been going through some things physically, emotionally and spiritually. And I've waited to post something special.

~)Ann(~

Something about books and how they can relate to people, in a sense!

This is a long read, and I hope you take the time to read it, I put a lot of thought and feeling here!

I have been laying in bed for a little while now, and I got to thinking!

"People are kind of like books!"
We are judged on our appearances, no matter what our contents might be, we have chapters in our lives, with each having a new beginning with each year gone by, some years are interconnected, and some are far different than that of the next.

What I am trying to get at is, we can see an enchanting book upon a shelf and want it so bad, just because it's cover catches our eyes and we feel the need to reach out and grab it!

But then again there are these books, with chapter names that can be quite appealing as well. BUT after we buy that book, it seems to have an awesome cover, wonderful thought out chapter names (Life achievements we'll say) and we get home, sit and start reading...Not so bad!

However after a few chapters those names are just names..

Okay, I'll just cut to the chase here...Some chapters can get down right nasty and grotesque!

Okay here is my example, but in PERSON form, instead of book explanation form!

Say there is a man....OR woman, and they have high achievements in life, good grades all through school, goes to college, gets out, finds a great job she loves with a passion...BUT half way through life and those wonderful passionately well put togetherness years of life, something happens and they have a downfall, a "spiral to rock bottom" chapter that pops in there...and than life gets really really crappy!

That's the awesome enchanting covered book with great chapter names I was talking about... Don't get me wrong, I know it doesn't always happen!

And then we have those "meh" books, they look okay, a little rough around the edges, and the contents are a bit interesting, I may want to read it!!

For this book, say it's a man...OR a woman! They suck at school are poor and kind of living life from rock bottom, most of their days, always hungry, always hoping they will get something of value to feel they have something to appreciate and treasure for a change. Trying very hard to never take anything for granted, and being always thankful for what they have, because they know that at anytime of day or given moment they know it can be gone in a flash. Maybe they quit school, because they didn't get good grades at all, settled for everything that was there if needed. Always grateful, but also a bit bittered by heartache from loved ones.

Something happens, life gets a little better, but worry, it lingers always in the back of their heads. For this person, they know how quick things can change and how fast things can be taken away or vanish and be gone. They pick themselves up, dust off the discouraging words in their head and push on a head and do what they never thought they'd ever do, and beat their own odds of thinking they might lose. And end up at the top, while still appreciating each day, each possession they own as a treasure, each person who hasn't walked away or given up on them along the hard journey it had been to get where they were.

That is the book I want! The book that shows the struggle, as I know it can be, life isn't easy for everyone, we all have chapters, we all have pages we wish we could tear out! But you know what? Not everyone is the same and we all have our own chapters, in which shouldn't be judged! Anything could happen while living each chapter.

And a star can rise and fall, but leaves can slowly drift to the ground, yet be gently swept up to a tree branch again. Life can have ups and downs, but some know how to live with it and others don't, because they have not experienced it before...Sometimes the one who was always at the bottom, finds it easier to put things back together again, and the one who is new to it, finds it life threatening, not knowing what to do...and those moments, they show you what life is all about and who really cares....AND WHO WE ARE! We learn so much about ourselves at those times, those hard times, are trying and learning curves in life! Yes we hate those moments, but later in life we learned, we LIVED, it showed us WHO WE ARE, not to everyone, but to us! Learning who you are to yourself, it's not easy, but it's worth getting to know yourself...It helps to live a bit happier knowing, you're your own friend, when you have yourself you can't be alone! ;)

I love reading!

I always read the information description that usually is on the inside cover or the back of the book before getting a book. Books that show an experienced knowledge throughout (I mean school and life knowledge) are usually the best books on the shelf! I left the parts about love out for a reason because sometimes love can be the cause of the downfall or the cause of the uprising.

I hope everyone has a great year this year and that it is filled with love, good health, happiness and peace!

Ann

Everyone has a past...

Over the years I have heard others say "they have a past", this was referring to different people, so please do not think I am just saying that directed at one person.

Everyone has a past, and everyone makes mistakes. Whether it's a crime committed or a person(or persons) we hurt, there is always that label of having a past. If we think really hard on it, we'll realize that everyone has a past and we all make mistakes, if not for mistakes not one person in this world would have succeeded in anything in life. Some successful people started from the ground up with having done something "bad" or "wrong", but we all know that if we gave up if by making our first mistakes, who would we be and what have we of learned along the way?

Do babies fall when they first start to crawl? Do they give up after the first try? No! Do they stop trying to walk after taking their first steps after falling hard on their backsides? No! Have we given up after first trying to skate or ride a bike? No!

Just because some people make bad life decisions, doesn't mean we should give up on ourselves and or others. They were choices made, maybe out of poor judgement or because of simple peer pressure, either way it's mistakes. Some aren't bad choices, some are just bad timing. No one should give up, you have to have faith in yourself and your abilities!

Why do some people give up because of a few bad life choices? You didn't give up when you fell off your bike or some other thing you "learned from"!

Bad choices are made to teach us, we date someone and maybe they hurt us in a way we never thought we would allow ourselves to get hurt. Maybe we bought something before thinking about it before wasting the money on that item(s), or perhaps we stole something because our friends did or did something drastic because of a dare(Don't jump off of a bridge)?

Mistakes are a part of everyone's life, we all make them and if we didn't we would not have lived, we must learn somehow. With experience and by observing others we can learn a lot. Mistakes are like eating, sleeping, breathing and any other thing we must do in order to live! We must also remember though if we think before we do, it might make all the difference on how people view us. Sure they are going to say, "they have a past", but do they wonder what choices they've made? I'm not saying to go rob a bank or steal a car, I am saying, we all have done something in life we aren't proud of. Some make reckless decisions and some make good ones, but there are times when we all make one or more choices that we aren't proud of.

People make mistakes, that doesn't mean that they themselves are mistakes. No one is a mistake, even killers that haven't been caught aren't mistakes, they are just making bad choices. I am not condoning them, I'm just saying, if you haven't killed anyone, why beat yourself up because you did drugs for years or stole most of your life. So stop yourself if it makes you unhappy in doing those things!

Some people make harsh decisions because they feel their life depends on it, it feels like a need and they feel they don't have a choice. Maybe they don't want to think about those choices, everyone can change and lots of people change for the better, change is a part of life too.

We must choose to better our situation, if we want to change who we are, if we ourselves are making ourselves unhappy. It's not just about others and what they have to say, sure it hurts to hear it, but we can't change for anyone but ourselves. If you're unhappy with your choices, than change them choices, it's never too late...

Summer fun and beach time! My child.

Hi everyone, I know I said I would post about my boy yesterday, but I was a bit upset...as you can probably tell from my last blog post.

So here we are I have a few pictures to share, of my child and his fun times at the beach!

 This was his first time with the floating device. As you can see, not wet yet lol

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 relaxing and enjoying his floating device :)

A few days later, he got out because he was getting cold...about 10 mins later he jumped back in again! 

I was in too, but I we didn't have anyone we knew around to take the pictures for us together. So I took this close up while standing in the water, put my camera back and swam with him! We had a lot of fun at the beach!

Hope your weekend was great

AnnJ

Here are some Life Inspirational quotes!

Hello everyone!

I really am liking posting quotes between opinionated posts lately!

So here are a few quotes I'd like to share with you all today and I hope it helps someone if nor more than one person!

Dost thou love life?
Then do not squander time,
for that is the stuff life is made of.
Benjamin Franklin

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
Helen Keller 

Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you represents determinism; the way you play it is free will.
Jawaharal Nehru

 

Life is like the dice that, falling, still show a different face. So life, though it remains the same, is always presenting different aspects.
Alexis

Our life's a stage, a comedy: either learn to play and take it lightly, or bear its troubles patiently.
Palladas

I wish you all the best and my wish is for EVERYONE to have a wonderful week and glorious fun filled summer!

Blessings to all

AnnJ 

 

Sometimes we need to let go...

Sometimes we have people in our lives that we love very much. Even those who are family can be harmful to our health. And no matter how much we love them, if they keep on hurting us in different ways, we have to let them go there ways and we have to go ours.

I am choosing this topic, because I know how it feels to be hurt by those I love very dearly. For some of them, do not realize how much has been done for them and given to them out of the kindness of ones heart. Some of us would give the shirt off of our own backs, just so they do not stay cold, even when we are cold. I'm the kind of person, if someone does this for me...I am grateful and feel a little guilty knowing they are cold, but would do this for me to make me warm(I have had this done to me). I have done this for people I love, and was given ungrateful hurt feelings instead.  And than called selfish after saying no because I I didn't have it to give.

This is why I let some people go, I still love them, and miss them, but because I care for myself as well...I keep them at a distance, sadly I do not talk to or associate myself with these people anymore. I have given to others when I didn't have it to give, because I cared. And to have them not care back, or give me something, or help me in some way, for them to treat me as if I am the one who is ungrateful. 

Having those kinds of people who use you, manipulate you and offer kindness just to use it as a means to throw in your face, is just grief and sorrow to ones heart. It's heartbreak to have people you love "Build on to happiness, just to stomp on it afterwards." ...Why build something if you are going to destroy it? That is what sandcastles are for. 

"I refuse, to be used...anymore!"

There are so many things in history, that are still standing today, because of people's appreciation for them. Feelings should be treated this way, not as sandcastles, that will be destroyed by crashing waves or big feet.

Why must some people fight, to get along? I never quite understood that. I dislike fighting, and if I can avoid it, I do. I always stand up for what I believe in, so don't get me wrong, I just mean, I don't like unnecessary arguments, that only escalate to hurt feelings which end up with feelings of regret because words are spoken that we really did not mean...or who knows, maybe "they" mean them.?...

So much in life gets carried away, from fighting, from wars, from jealousy because they think someone's better than them or having more, or whatever. WHY? Why worry about those small things, when those small things create such huge destruction and or pain? It's exhausting, it's painful, it's even devastating and even sometimes lives are taken. There is just so much grief at times that we must TRY OUR BEST, to see things from a brighter side of things, where some of us open our eyes and actually have to force ourselves to be optimistic in order to cope, live and be happy. In order for our lives to get better and change because we are just tired of those ways.

I wish others would open their eyes and actually see that their life isn't as bad as it use to be and see that it is better and happier, but they are stuck on thoughts of yesterdays...

Sorry if this seems a bit off, but there are times I must share things in order for others to look ahead and to look up and see the brighter side of what IS THERE instead of seeing what was there!

Please put the past behind you, see NOW IS BETTER, and have peace and LET GO OF PAST GRIEVING'S! 

Love and beauty is in everything, and is everywhere, if you just let go of then and see now. Enjoy what is there and better these days, because the bad that was then is gone! 

Time as an adult and time as a child...

Time!
Sometimes days just aren't long enough as an adult. I am always finding that there are not enough hours in a day lately. So, a lot of my time feels wasted because, I don't want to pass the time doing so much than, to find it has left me already. I don't ever remember feeling that way as a child. Probably as a child our only responsibilities are, to go to school, to have fun, do home work and possibly a side sport or event. I remember those days seeming longer. Maybe because I had so much energy to use up in the day, enough to last two days and than it repeats the next day. I mean, an adults day seems more like a half a day, where as a child's day is like two of ours.

As a child we just had so much time to use and take advantage of. So little to worry about, besides where our best friend might be, or what happened to a relative. Or if a parent was sick. You know the small things that could to us as children.

As an adult, time just slips away and it makes me wonder if I'll ever get everything done in one day...And I usually don't get everything finished in a whole day. Adults have to worry so much, about our children, their needs to be met in time. Our own schedules beyond that even! Household chores, the bills, appointments for us and our children, I could ad more because the list just goes on and on here. I am sure you understand if you're a mom, especially a full-time working mom (KUDOS)!

I'm speaking from a mom's point of view, but I know that their are men out there doing the same thing!

It's hard being a single parent, looking for work, trying to get her schooling, looking to the future with a desire to make things better in life. Which takes more time! You all get my point I am sure/

I guess I missed a few hours today as I wasted it trying to get this computer working while my child was at school. And I had a virus to get rid of, as I have hacker problems constantly...Which I have no idea why they like to choose me as their target so much.

Anyway I am done with that rant about computers, as I believe I have fixed the problem ...For now at least.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend this coming weekend!

Much love and blessings to all and have a great night!

Ann

Just some motivational quotes!

Hello everyone, I am just here to post a few quotes I have found and wanted to share. I'd like to keep others positive and motivated. Please come back to view my blog, in order to lift your spirits, or just give that boost of confidence you might need; for the days when, you're feeling low!

“Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson Quote

"Seek the lofty by reading, hearing and seeing great work at some moment every day."  - Thornton Wilder

You cannot plough a field by turning it over in your mind. - Author Unknown

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. - Winston Churchill

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

I hope you all have a great week and that it is blessed with many happy moments!

AnnJ

Hello and I hope Your week has been great so far! UPDATE

Hello everyone!
I just wanted to come here today to share an idea I have been wondering about. I am looking for others opinions or even a short little share of views on this idea!
What's the idea?
I'd like to start an advice column! Now I know I don't have any PHD's or anything, but I do feel I have great advice some days and as you can see, I share it! It doesn't always just stop there, when it is personally involved though! It is also a thing of advice and why I feel, how I feel, etc. I love helping people in this way, advice is free, you just have to send a message or comment (I will put a form in later on) I might create a different blog for it, but I do not think it would be necessary, since this is an advice blog anyways.

I'd like to know what you all think and I would love some advice, opinions, and your views on this idea I have been having. :-)

Of course, sometimes you will see a personal blog post, from time to time! But I'd really like to help you with your problems, if I can.

I welcome you to ask, comment or just say a few words of encouragement! Ask and or tell me anything and I will do my best to response in a respectful manner, without judgement towards you...I also don't mind if you use a fake name, or send a message as anonymous! This is an advice column after all, SO NO NAMES are needed.

Self-help Some personal advice with a bit of experience to back it up.

“Self – Help”

This is written FOR YOU! Not for me!

Ask for help! 

I have found, even when you ask yourself for help, it will come. In one way or another! “You’ll be helping Yourself. Only You can make the difference and the choices to better yourself and your future!”

“Self-Help”
Keys:
#1- Be yourself!
#2- Believe in yourself!
#3- Turn negatives into positives- Example: Always look to the brighter side of  “Every situation”! When something bad happens, think about “Worse things could have happened”!
Be grateful that it wasn’t worse! This is a very important thing to keep in mind when we go through hard times! It helps to make things brighter and less of a tragedy than it was or is!
You always have to have as positive to go with the negatives!

More examples:
-Your car broke down…At least you didn’t get into an accident!
-You broke your pencil…No big deal, you have more pencils! Don’t get angry, just chuck it and grab a new pencil!
These are just examples remember, the point is to just “find a positive to a negative situation!”

#4- You always know who loves you, they are the ones who do not judge you. No matter what you’ve done! They are the ones who are there when you need it most! Even if they are not there physically even, the point is that they were and are there! ALWAYS! No matter what!

#5- Relax and keep the above statement in mind when you feel depressed! Always relax for this thought process! We all must take a moment for ourselves to relax and get calmed down so that our minds can think more clearly and not get carried away in the moment!

In order to make it anywhere in life, and be happy…we must Think of ourselves, try our best not to feel guilty. Because if we let others make us feel guilty, how does that help us? It doesn’t! I know this one all too well, I have seen me give to others when I just couldn’t afford it to give, just because I felt guilty because they seemed to not have as much as me. It is about what they need from us, but this isn’t in every situation that someone needs. Some make up a need and put on an act, in order to just, simply get what they want! But if we can not afford or give it, we know we shouldn’t? For, the help we did, might have been a good deed, now we need because we helped someone else.

I know that might sound selfish, but when does it come to our attention that we need too? Listen to that inner voice when the need for ourselves is important, when the situation arises!

Write down your goals and stick to them, if anyone knows this "I do". I have seen me set so many goals for myself, only to get distracted by others and seem to let those self made goals pass on by! Carry them with you if you have to, keep them in a wallet or purse or even a coat pocket…a pants pocket even!

We all know life gets crazy at times, but we also know that there is always a way around negative situations! Take a few breaths, go for a walk, lay down and read a “positive” empowering book! There are MANY out there…

Go to support groups, make new friends, meet new people. Say hello when you walk passed strangers on your walks…say “Good Morning!” Even when you’re shy, you’d be surprised at the amount of people who do this even if you don’t! I have done this many times on my walks, I have had people simply walking by say “Hi”, or “Good Morning”  I’ve even had them comment on the weather and the type of day it was out. And you know what? I didn’t know any of those people, they were just out walking, just like me!

Walking is a great form of MEDITATION! Yes, meditation…just going for a walk.
So if you’re feeling stressed by life in general, or a relationship that wasn’t what you thought it should be…Go for a walk, read a powerful inspiring book, learn some yoga!

Do something! It helps! Trust me, I know from experience!
I want to thank you right now for making it this far in reading my blog post! I wrote it for You! I hope it lifts your spirits and makes today and the rest of your life feel easier to cope, when you’re going through a rough time…And always know…You’re loved!
Ann J

An update on what I have been up to lately!

Hello everyone, I know I have been away for a while, but I am not really away I am just compiling some thing together in order to post them here for others. I am trying to get the things and the wording just right, in order to help others.

Baring with this in mind, I want to thank you all for your patience and understanding! I hope to have things ready to be posted later tonight.

I hope everyone is have a great week end and that their week went well.
Much love to all
Ann

Edit: Please go here to view one of my newest helpful posts!

Relationships...A personal look.

I have been looking at my personal experiences lately, on relationship woes. Now I don't say woes because it's been many relationships and they all were bad. No! I am saying, I have a hard time being open in them, and also that I had a long unhappy relationship that taught me many things. No I haven't had many to be honest, and no I haven't experienced many sexual relationships. I did however learn a great deal about people and their ways.

I like to put myself.."in a sense" in other peoples shoes, in order to try to see things from many angles, of life in general in, order to best understand others better. And this is why I don't like to judge others. I do however state things that may sound like I am judging them, but please put this thought out of your mind as I am just showing different facts and points of view. It might seem like mind reading in a way. But by all means, please only see it as observation and knowing how to read between the lines.

Now on to the issues and facts at hand. I want all to know this isn't me putting anyone down...It's just showing what I know intuitively and stating them textually for all to see.

#1- I have huge trust issues! HUGE! The further info, comes to play on my WHY's I do have such huge trust issues...and this is just from a non-family relationship view.

#2- I tend to sense that they want to change me, this causes me to feel a bit standoff-ish and a little resentful to that person or myself.
Let me go a bit into detail with this one with some personal experience, without names involved and just simply "experience".

I was seeing someone for a short time, things were okay. I am always shy, and keep myself emotionally at a distance for my own protection! Gradually we got to know a little bit about each other, with me as usual keeping what is needed to myself...Yet at the same time letting myself show.

My problem..They would compliment me all the time, which was very annoying to me, as well as showing me they might have only one thing in mind.. It's something I don't expect and not something I like. Sure I like compliments, but after a while of holding myself back...These compliments only seemed like a way of them trying to smooth talk their way into getting what they wanted from me. You see I hold out. I don't have sex with anyone, and I am holding off until I know the person wants me for me.

The many compliments also came with, "you should do your make-up", and "you should put streaks in your hair", or "you should..whatever." .."Change yourself to please me" is what I hear after these ....See what I mean now? Huge problem! I wont change for anyone!

They also commented on how "this body part is so much different from this ex or that ex...*STOP SIGN* ..I'm thinking "WHAT?" .."No you didn't!" ...So you see another HUGE PROBLEM there.

#3- Sex...I have to be there in order to want it, I am not like other females. I hold off until I know they want me for me. Sure I played, I kissed. That is as far as I go, I wont put out if you state very clearly with all your compliments that it really isn't "me" you want, it is actually just what my body can pleasurably offer you. NO THANKS!

Am I too judgmental on that? Whether you say yes or no, wont matter either way, BECAUSE...I don't feel I am.

They play video games ALL THE TIME! I hate games, I don't play games, furthermore...I don't like feeling like I should feel like competition to a silly game system. I experienced that already with my son's father, I don't need it from someone I don't really care that much for. I liked them, but I never loved them, they told me they loved me..Yet I called them at work ONCE and they sounded irritated. And they called me from their work many times, Yet when I wasn't there to answer the call...ONCE, they sounded irritated. That to me indicates Possessiveness! I have been there, done that before...Not going to need to experience that again! Lived it, learned it...Next!

#4- I wait for no man who seems to show any of these signs stated above! If someone shows me (whether they know, they are or not!) that they want to change me, make me one of their possessions, and or a pleasure tool, I wont be sticking around to have it accomplished like some dumb-a** girl who is lonely probably would. I don't get lonely in that sense, I don't need a man to fill some void of loneliness...As I stated above I am VERY DIFFERENT! 

I only change for myself. I will never change for anyone as I don't feel anyone else should. We can only be ourselves and change for ourselves. I love constructive criticism, but I will not be criticized in an insulting manner!

#5- Testing their feelings towards me...I am so bad for this! You see I am so bad for this one, and since I am female, I have to admit, I can be a tease sometimes. But I only tease in order to learn more. I don't do it to hold someone, I don't do it for some hidden motives..unless you see it as such lol because I am sure you probably could judging on how it seems. I pretended like I wanted to change them and that they shouldn't or should do this to make me happy.

But I really do not want to change anyone, I just test them to see their reaction. If I like or love someone, them being themselves is all I want! If they have bad habits I will suggest maybe changing that part of themselves, for themselves...but not for me...We can only change for ourselves, so depending on the situation, stating something should change is a simple suggestion and or a critical judgement or wanting them to change for me.

I wouldn't put out, and after being in the relationship kind of thing. After some playing around. I told them to get "protection"...They seemed excited...You know I had planned on breaking it off before this point came to it's face. But I stuck it out, just to test my instincts and prove them right.

They didn't have money when I suggested getting protection, furthermore they asked me in a funny tone if I was serious about them buying some. ...Not if I was serious about putting out...Serious about the fact that they had wear protection. ..So another sign shows it's ugly face, you following me yet? On another note I'd like to add when I had stated my feelings on these things, this person acted as if I didn't know what I was talking about...hence showing another sign that I was right in my gut feelings.

All signs are right there in the open, I was asked out purely for my looks, not for who I was as a person. But for what I had as a female. If you're a teen reading this right now, please if you do not want to get hurt...Hold out for the right guy...Most guys will show most if not all of these "player" signs. And just because they would be willing to be with you a long time and for a long term relationship, doesn't mean these types of guys wont cheat and try it on the nest girl or your best friend(maybe that's another topic for the future).. They pretend to be all shy...Yet you see them act differently, towards others, you know, they know.

There were violent moments of jealously shown as well, that I OBSERVED. But I wont post them here. As this is just for others "to learn that to observe is to also absorb" and learn from!

Being in love with and thinking of someone else didn't help the situation either!!!
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I wanted to share these experiences, in hopes that other people having these things happen and see them for what they are can learn from my advice and explanation of how a person can behave and how you should see the signs before it's too late to get away!

I am all for helping anyone get out of a dangerous situation if I can help it!
Now don't get me wrong, I know there are great men out there, I just felt the need to state some facts because of people in my life not seeing the full picture for what it is...I wont settle and I wont be with someone to please someone else.

A BUSY week so far!

Well...
It's been a busy week so far and it's only Tuesday! But The weekend made it seem longer, my child was sick with a stomach bug, so I had lots of mommy things to do. I have been walking a lot, to and from everywhere. I am feeling pooped...

I had a rough night last night, but I am feeling fine now, I got some house work done, and other stuff done, but I feel I have neglected posting online! NOT on purpose though! I have just been busy, busy, busy!

I like being a closed book. And I guess after I opened it; I got what I got, because I opened it.. which I don't normally do. I think I will keep it under lock and key from now on!

From now on, I am only telling what I feel like telling and keep my feelings out of the matter, unless it is deserved or needed. I don't need a man anyway. I sure miss my father a lot though. He always made me feel better; when I'd cry, he'd talk to me and if I wouldn't tell him what was wrong, he would think of another way in order to cheer me up! And he did try hard too, because once I am mad or upset it is hard to get me out of it. Well it was anyway.

He would talk to me, or give me a big bear hug, and if that didn't work he would get up to pretend he was walking away and pretend he stubbed his toe or something like that to make me laugh :)...He always found a way to cheer me up. I miss him so much these days. But "I always know" he is always with me in heart!

Well it's almost bed time and I have other blogs to update as well, you all have a wonderful week and night!

LIFE IS DOING AND DOING IS EXPERIENCE! Compassion and understanding!

If you find anything similar to this posting, I am not stealing it, these are all my own words!!

I know this is long, but I feel very deeply; if you are to understand anything here, it needs to be read in the full as well as thought about for a few minutes through each paragraph! I am not telling you to do it for me, nor am I demanding it be done, I am just saying, if you believe in yourself even just a little, please read it slow, please be patient and have compassion and understanding!

If it wasn't for my father and myself, where would I be today? Who would I be? Questions I have asked myself many times.

EVERYONE CONTROLS THEIR OWN DESTINY WHEN THEY HIT A CERTAIN AGE! However some people do not mentally age fully, and should not be left alone with themselves...and if no one can provide that for them, they should be in a PLACE THAT CAN! They should be in a PLACE THAT CAN, medically assist their needs better than someone who doesn't know enough about it! And will not be forced or controlled into doing so! And when someone can do for themselves, they shouldn't expect others to do it all for them.;

Life is hard, but if you do nothing at all with it, it's pointless being born. If you don't FIGHT for YOURSELF, you're not loving yourself to show others you can, that you do! LIFE IS DOING AND DOING IS EXPERIENCE!

Why are people so hard on themselves (example: say they can't doing something they have never tried, have a lack of confidence in their own abilities, etc.)? A lot of the time; it is because, this is how they were taught, what they were told, or perhaps not told, shown or taught anything concerning such things at all!

What is the Purpose of life?

To feel! To do! To experience by doing! And if you watch and listen well, you can also see others experiences to learn from their mistakes. You learn from practice, you learn from making mistakes, and you learn by listening and watching, but most things require "that act of doing". If you don't want to..Make yourself.Why? Because it's for YOU! Not anyone else, but for you. Why do you have a life, if you are not going to work hard at living it? If you weren't meant to be born or named your name, you wouldn't have been! Simple as that!!!!!
Because life is nothing if you are not doing anything, your parents changed your diapers, some worked hard to put food in your belly, some cleaned the house, and cleaned you so that you didn't get a rash or something worse! Some pushed you when you were crying saying you couldn't, when they know first hand that you could because they probably did it themselves, or maybe they had to work even harder than you did in order to become who they became! All our ancestors before us, did that!
Some went away to war in order for you to live! Some Died while you were still babies, doing that for You and everyone else they love(d)! Do you think for one minute or even a second, that they didn't have those thoughts when they were younger too?
>I can't!
I don't wanna!
It's too hard!
ETC!!!
Change it to I can, I will, and I'm doing it and I have done it! That is where the happiness and the power of SELF comes in! BELIEVE!
See lots of people maybe even everyone on this planet has said these things!


I can understand the make yourself for doing house work, for going to school because it is needed, I can also understand the push you need, to do other things that EVERYONE NEEDS to do; like eating to live, or maybe cooking that meal you don't want to cook for yourself but it NEEDS to be done! See that is the differences! You need to work hard for the proper needs and you need to work hard for the things you do want, desire, and have a passion for!

These are some of the secrets to life! Some people know them already without realizing it, some knew because, maybe someone told them in a different way, but deep down, maybe you know I am right!

Judge not, that ye be not judged. Matthew 7:1 

I like to tell people, do not judge because you do not know what they have been through in life and like wise I do not know of what you have been through as you do not know of my life story, we all have one!
You might know your own story, but do not be so hard on yourself regarding what you have or haven't done! Be stronger for it! Never give up; because when you judge yourself on what you did in the past, it is hard to life for your future!


GOOD NIGHT!

Stressin' To impress (personal advice)

I learned a long time ago that if you spread yourself too thin in the beginning that later on you run out of things to do in order to impress that one you tried too hard to impress later! You will become tired, wasted, maybe even feel worthless!

Why do people do that? They waste time in the beginning, bending over back-words in order to impress someone they like, or want in a relationship!

Some more thoughts! Subject: Mothers instincts

Well Mothers instincts...Personally I feel that all mothers have it. Weather they follow is it, doubt it or simply ignore it is the difference on being a good mom. Don't get me wrong, men have the instinct too! I have seen it with my own eyes and that is how I know they do! ;)
Anyways I do not want to get off the topic I am starting lol.

Denial...Just some thoughts

Please do not correct me if I am wrong here, as these are just personal thoughts and or analogies!

I have been thinking of those I have known to have gone through denial. Now I know I have gone through it, and I know others who are still going through it.

Happy Mothers day!

I am having a good mothers day weekend! My mom came to visit and stay with me for the week end! This may seem regular for others, but for me it is a gift! Because My mother and I haven't been really close for years. I moved in with my father after I turned twelve, and well we kind of fell apart! I have always loved my mother and so this was a bit hard on both of us over the years.